I will say, from the outset of this chapter, that marriage, home 🏡 and family life, when scripturally guided, is systematic in its progress. The whole affair of marriage and family life is not supposed to be a clumsy or jumbled string of trial and error experimentations. Marriage is Growth experience characterised by progression in knowledge of a new life. Your transitions from singlehood to the married life is a leap from one stage to another. This brings a turning point in your life. And like every other thing, it has a beginning. ❤️️💕🌺☔️🍉🍒🍇
The beginning of every worthwhile venture is very important. The beginning of a new home is even more important. It requires all the skill, talent, effort and prayer that you can possibly muster. The beginning of marriage is likened to a foundation and its importance is underscored in Psalm 11:3
“If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?”
Psalms 11:3 KJV
Largely because of the importance of the beginning of your married life, you need all the help the Bible offers. The Bible has sound and proven counsels for you as touching marriage. But you must be willing to receive these counsels because it is in receiving them that you get wisdom (Proverbs 19:20): “Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.”
Proverbs 19:20 KJV
I will draw up six solid scriptural counsels for the newly married. They are:
LEAVING
LEARNING
LOVING
CLEAVING
COVERING
AND CARING
These six counsels will be paired as follows:
1. LEAVING and CLEAVING
2. LEARNING and COVERING
3. LOVING and CARING
LEAVING AND CLEAVING:
Genesis 2:21-24:
“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Genesis 2:21-24 KJV
This is the first stage in the progression of the new couple’s life. You leave a group of people in order to be joined to one ☝️ person. You will be separated from many people just to be joined to one person. In actual sense, the tendency is for the lady to remain attached to her mother or father, as the case may be, and the man may still cling his mother, pals, or pastor, as the case may be. But this is wrong. After marriage, God expects you to quit other intimate relationships and sharing with all those who hitherto enjoyed such, and cleave to your spouse.
Examples of people who knew what it meant to leave and cleave abound in Scriptures.
Genesis 24:67 reveals that:
“And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.”
Genesis 24:67 KJV
As soon as Isaac got married to Rebecca, he had to leave his father’s tent. Sarah had died before Isaac’s marriage so he lived in Sarah’s tent, independent of Abraham’s authority.
Note that any other person besides the two of you in the home is regarded as a stranger.
“Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.”
Proverbs 5:15-18 KJV
In plain modern language, this verse admonishes a married man to cleave to his wife. Marriage demands total CLEAVING. But note that before you can cleave, you must leave all those you will be tempted to give yourself to apart from your spouse. You MUST leave these three sets of people:
A. Caring Parents
B. Concerned People
C. Counselling Pastors
TO BE CONT…..
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Shalom
Mrs Angelinah Olubunmi Peters
JESUS Is Alive In me
