Hey people! So today I’m writing straight into WordPress, which is the very first time as I usually write in my notes then transfer it over, so I’m feeling exhilarated by this action alone haha. Today I want to talk a little about entitlement; it’s a pretty dangerous thing to have when its undeserved.
Let me give you guys a scenario: a single guy meets a single girl and wants to pursue a relationship with her so he begins the “getting to know her” period. Things are going well but no defined relationship has been identified; they’re just getting to know each other after all. After a short period of time, let’s say 2 months, he calls her on one blessed day and she isn’t able to answer her phone, so he calls her multiple times and gets frustrated at what he saw to be ignorance of his attempts at contacting her, but was actually because she wasn’t available, and he decided to send a strongly worded message out of frustration. Tensions rose and words were exchanged in the heat of the moment. Eventually the issue is settled, but the girl has certainly ruled out the guy as a possible partner, though the friendship is allowed to continue.
Now let’s dissect the scenario – though the girl forgave the guy for his actions, the thought behind the action is what led to the ruling out. It’s that sense of entitlement that was the problem – there were no fixed expectations that comes with a defined relationship; thus the expectance of an entitlement to preferential treatment only 2 months into the unlabeled relationship, is a warning sign. The guy comes across as a potentially demanding partner and although some people like that kind of thing, not everyone does.
Moral of the story: know where you stand in every relationship you’re in, whether platonic or otherwise, it helps prevent crossing lines that shouldn’t even be blurred.
Lose that Entitlement
